Why is the uncle the father's "father" and the uncle's husband's "husband"?

The Chinese culture is broad and profound, and the Chinese language is very rich, which is breathtaking.

The usage of each word is exquisite, and the use of each word is also distinctive, such as in the title of relatives, which is very interesting, like the question we are going to answer today.

Why is the uncle the father’s “father” and the uncle’s husband’s “husband”?

This title is not casual, it has its own profound philosophy.

It represents humility

China is a country that attaches great importance to family affection, and no matter how successful a person is in society, he cannot but recognize his parents, brothers and sisters, wives and children, aunts and aunts, uncles and uncles. If you don’t recognize it, you don’t recognize your six relatives, and it’s a big rebellion.

Among the six relatives, aunts and aunts are very important, one is the sister of their father, the other is the sister of their mother, they are all close relatives.

And the uncle is the husband of the aunt, and the uncle is the husband of the aunt, and they are also the closest people to them.

Therefore, as the basic members of the six relatives, the titles of “uncle” and “uncle” are not only now, but appeared in ancient times.

We know that the Tao of Confucius and Mencius has dominated Chinese society for thousands of years and is a value recognized by successive Chinese rulers. The three outlines and five constants, the concept of hierarchy, male superiority and female inferiority are the essence of Confucius and Mencius.

Although the uncle and the uncle-in-law are both spouses of close relatives, one is the lover of the father’s sister and the other is the lover of the mother’s sister;

According to the doctrine of male superiority and inferiority of women and the principle of husband as wife in the “Three Principles and Five Constants”, the father’s relatives should be the main one, for example, the aunt’s spouse is in the first place;

At the same time, the spouse of the mother’s relatives and aunts should be secondary, and the status is slightly inferior. It has been around since ancient times.

In this way, my aunt’s lover uses my father’s “father”, and my aunt’s lover can only be wronged a little bit by using this husband’s “husband”.

Represents proximity

In the eyes of ancient people, relatives with the same surname are closer in blood and should be regarded as “clan relatives”, and aunts with the same surname as themselves should be their own people.

And people who do not have the same surname as their father can only be regarded as people with foreign surnames and relatives, so that the intimacy is immediately revealed.

My aunt has the same surname as herself, and the relationship is “closer”, relatively speaking, my aunt’s husband is a little closer, and we can use the word “father” for her lover; And her aunt has a different surname from herself, and the relationship is “estranged”, so her husband can only be aggrieved and use the word “husband”, saying that a thousand things and ten thousand are still the respect and inferiority caused by feudal society.

Times

It is precisely because the use of “father” and “husband” in the words “uncle” and “uncle” is the product of outdated concepts, which is incompatible with the new era, and it goes against the trend of history and modern civilization and values.

The times are developing, society is progressing, and all outdated ideas are thrown into the garbage heap of history.

With the improvement of women’s status, the father’s relatives and the mother’s relatives are not distinguished from each other, let alone far and near, they are the closest people, and there should be no difference in their names.

Therefore, in life, when we write about aunts and aunts’ spouses, there is no longer a difference, some people use “uncle” and some use “uncle”;

As for the aunt’s lover, some people use “uncle”, and some people use “brother-in-law” in “Cihai”, which recognizes these two different names.