Entering ChinaOne:
Have you ever had such a moment: the phone is as quiet as death, all the dynamics in the circle of friends seem to have nothing to do with you, the phone has not rang a few times, and even the invitation to the party has not been received for a long time.
At this time, have you ever felt a little uneasy, or even wondered if you have become unpopular, or if you have “become more popular”?
Actually, you probably don’t have to worry about that at all. Instead, you should celebrate – celebrate that you are no longer bogged down by superficial socialization and busyness, that you have finally learned to be truly alone and that you have found yourself again.
The fast-paced life of modern society often makes us troubled by various social activities and interpersonal relationships.
Friends ask you to dinner, work overtime, WeChat groups and circle of friends are swiped, and the screen is full of “lively” and “busy”, which makes people often feel that if they are not involved, it is as if they have missed the most important part of their lives.
However, the real value is not in these superficial bustle, but in the calm and thinking that belongs to oneself and is independent of external evaluation.
Two:
Loneliness is not a failure, but a profound self-awakening
Some people may feel that loneliness is a failure, or even that they have been abandoned and that their lives have lost their meaning as a result.
But in fact, loneliness is not the same as failure. As many people say, loneliness is a strength, and it means that you have the opportunity to get rid of the noise of the outside world and listen to your inner voice.
For example, the writer Yu Hua’s attitude towards life has given us a good inspiration. Yu Hua’s creative style has a lot to do with his lifestyle, he does not participate in frequent social activities, and even maintains a considerable loneliness in his daily life.
He likes to be quiet and read, think, and write, and this seemingly “isolated” state has allowed him to create many profound and influential works.
Yu Hua has publicly stated that his loneliness has given him space to think, and has also allowed him to focus more on the perception and creation of his inner world.
This loneliness is not passive, but actively chosen. Yu Hua chose to stay away from the hustle and bustle and devote himself to the construction of the spiritual world, and his success was born in this “loneliness”. Loneliness, on the contrary, allowed him to find his own creativity and the meaning of life.
Loneliness is not a sense of loss, but an opportunity to rebuild oneself. Modern people often fall into the vortex of over-socialization and don’t know how to set aside time for themselves in their busy lives.
Especially in this era of highly developed social media, people seem to be more connected, but in fact, it is easy to fall into “group anxiety”, everyone is chasing a virtual, quick-satisfaction social circle, losing the space to talk to themselves.
When you realize that no one has asked you to dinner or invited you to a party, maybe it’s time to celebrate.
Because you no longer waste time trying to cater to others, but you learn to enjoy your alone time and find yourself.
Three：
With less hustle and bustle, life begins to have a real answer
“With less hustle and bustle, life begins to have real answers.” This sentence comes from the pen of writer Feng Tang, and profoundly expresses an important truth of human life: when the noise of the outside world stops, you will hear the true voice of your heart.
The hustle and bustle represents busyness, impetuousness, and people’s constant pursuit in order to gain recognition and acceptance from the outside world.
However, the answer that truly belongs to you is often not found in these hustle and bustle, but needs to be pursued in inner peace.
We often think that the busier we are, the more valuable we are; The more you participate in various social activities, the more you can show your interpersonal charm.
However, a truly rewarding life is not just about superficial excitement and extensive socialization, but about being able to be quiet, alone with yourself, to think about the meaning of life, and to find what your heart desires the most.
This tranquility is more precious than any social gathering, more precious than any social gathering.
When you spend more time with yourself instead of rushing to deal with every phone call and every message, you will find that you have unconsciously become more resilient and independent.
You begin to stop relying on the approval of others to affirm your own worth, but gradually find the direction of your life through self-knowledge and inner peace.
Let go of unnecessary social interactions and improve the quality of life
In our daily lives, we are always swayed by external expectations.
Bosses’ requests, co-workers’ gatherings, and invitations from friends seem to have become the standard by which our social skills and relationships are measured.
In order not to be left out, we often force ourselves to participate even when we are clearly tired or even tired.
This superficial busyness often leads us to lose sight of the things that can really make life more meaningful.
However, the quality of life doesn’t depend on how many parties you attend or how many friends you have in your circle of friends.
The quality of life comes from whether you can find your own peace in the busy and noisy outside world, and whether you can concentrate on doing things that truly satisfy and delight you.
By cutting back on unnecessary socializing and socializing, you can give yourself more time to focus on things that are truly meaningful, such as improving your abilities, pursuing your interests, and exploring your deeper self.
Loneliness is not scary, but rather a way to get back to yourself.
When you let go of those meaningless social activities and really start paying attention to your heart, you will find that the quality of life is improved instead.
You are no longer bothered by external evaluations and recognition, but can pursue your own dreams and goals at your own pace.
Four：
There are many people who are afraid of loneliness, believing that loneliness means abandonment, neglect, or even failure in life.
But in fact, loneliness is a kind of power, which can allow us to withdraw from the pressure and distractions of the outside world and find our own inner world.
Loneliness gives us the opportunity to think for ourselves, to stop relying on external standards to define ourselves, and to be able to really know what we want.
Loneliness is not the same as loneliness. Loneliness is a feeling of absence and emptiness, while loneliness is a kind of inner fulfillment, a process of dialogue with oneself and reconciliation with one’s heart.
As you learn to enjoy solitude, you will find that you become more aware of your purpose in life and more determined to follow the path you have chosen.
So, don’t feel sad or anxious when you find that your phone is no longer constantly messaging, the dynamics in your circle of friends have nothing to do with you, and the invitations to parties are gradually decreasing.
On the contrary, it may be a sign that you are no longer swayed by the impetuosity of the outside world, that you have found your rhythm, that you are gradually moving towards inner peace and independence.
Sometimes, what we need is not more social, but more self. And loneliness is a way to help us find ourselves.
In this loneliness, we can not only reflect on the past and plan for the future, but also feel ourselves truly and discover those things in life that are truly worth pursuing.
Celebrate, because you are finally no longer running around for those superficial busyness, and you can finally welcome a more meaningful life with a peaceful heart.
