Entering China
The anxiety of middle-aged people can be relieved by rest, but middle-aged people dare not rest.
If you go home early to celebrate the New Year, it means you won’t be able to make money for several days, and you will have many more reasons to spend money.
We can’t stop working. It’s not that work needs us, but that we need work. The salary that arrives every month is the basis for us to support our family.
I dare not stop in life. The Yangtze River’s waves behind push the waves ahead. If you stop doing anything, there will always be someone to take over. The only thing is that the pillar of the family cannot be replaced by someone else.
If you are not doing well and can’t make money, you don’t dare to easily mention going home for the New Year. There are no successful people in big cities, and there is no place for losers in your hometown.
When I return to my hometown, I hear about other people’s successful careers and financial freedom, and I see other people having both sons and daughters and happy families.
Back to myself, the only thing left is a question that will never be solved: We are all people working in the outside world, why are you the only one who has ended up like this?
Only after going through half of your life will you get out of the predicament and find that happiness is incomparable and success has no end.
When you have money, live a good life. When you have no money, live a good mood.
All problems will always find a solution in the end. Middle-aged people work hard from the beginning of the year to the end of the year, and in the end, all they have left is relief: whether you have money or not, you have to go home for the New Year.
To be honest, my hometown is not a safe haven. It allows you and me to temporarily escape from the anxiety of survival in the big city, but it also means that we have entered a new environment.
In this environment, life can be so simple that you only need to consider what to eat for three meals a day, but it can also be so complicated that you need to deal with all kinds of human relationships.
Whether you have a job or not, you will be asked about your savings and salary, where you work, and how much you earn a year;
People who are not married will be urged to get married, and they will ask you when you will find a partner, get married and have children, and how many children you will have;
It is even more difficult for people who have already started a family and a career to avoid various types of labor.
The daily routine is nothing more than sleeping until I wake up naturally, eating fresh meals, putting my hands in my pockets after meals, going out to the park and basking in the sun.
During this period, I would also encounter questions from acquaintances: Why did you come back so early? Why haven’t you gotten married yet?
Compared with their colleagues who are still struggling in big cities, middle-aged people who return home early also have more time to spend with their families.
In addition, with few social connections and job opportunities in our hometown, we also found that a wandering life can give us a more diverse life experience.
While beautifying another life, we can also compare different lives to discover what kind of choice is more suitable for ourselves and think clearly about where the future lies.
And this requires stopping to discover. The Chinese New Year is undoubtedly the best opportunity.
I once saw someone say that the reason why the New Year atmosphere is becoming less and less festive is that the Spring Festival is celebrated for children.
Red envelopes are given by adults; new clothes are bought by adults; the lively atmosphere unique to the Chinese New Year is also created by adults buying large and small bags and visiting relatives and friends.
Children enjoy the New Year, but for adults, it becomes a burden and they spend the holiday in a state of exhaustion.
In the end, some people may lament that they no longer like the Chinese New Year, or they may be confused about how to celebrate the Chinese New Year.
But in the final analysis, the Chinese New Year is celebrated for family and for ourselves.
It can be a lively celebration of traditional customs, or it can be a “mid-life derailment” to give yourself a vacation, to find the wilderness of life outside the track.
It is not just a day to celebrate the New Year and family reunion, but a stop on our long journey of life.
As middle-aged people, we experience a whole year of busyness, lost in the chaos, and lose our passion for life due to heavy pressure.
In the journey of life, sometimes we need to stop, examine our hearts, and ask ourselves what we really want, so that we can move forward better.
At present, we can also slow down in the way we want and enjoy the New Year. Life is a long journey, so learn to stop and take a rest during the New Year.
