Entering ChinaProfessor Zeng Shiqiang said a particularly heart-wrenching sentence. He said:
“Your acquaintances – relatives, friends, faxiao, classmates, colleagues…. He probably doesn’t want you to do well, at least, he doesn’t want you to be better than him. ”
The words are very straightforward, but the reality is even more cruel.
Acquaintances are the most difficult to “get” in interpersonal relationships.
On the delicate chessboard of interpersonal communication, every word is like a falling child, and it is necessary to act with caution, especially in the interaction with acquaintances.
Although there is a natural sense of closeness and trust between acquaintances, the inappropriate use of certain topics or words may inadvertently break this harmony and leave an irreparable rift.
The following four sentences are what we should try to avoid saying in front of acquaintances, so as not to regret it in the future.
You really made the wrong choice
In the journey of life, everyone will make their own choices, no matter what the outcome, and these choices often carry personal ideals and beliefs.
When we judge our acquaintances’ past choices with the benefit of hindsight, we are actually questioning their judgment and life values.
Not only does this hurt the other person’s self-esteem, but it can also make the other person feel underestimated or not understood.
Remember, respecting other people’s choices, even if they don’t seem to you to be optimal, is an important rule for maintaining a good relationship.
We want to respect everyone’s growth and change, because everyone develops and progresses over time.
Shen Yan “I told you a long time ago”
The phrase “I told you a long time ago” often carries with it a sense of superiority with hindsight.
Although this phrase may express a kind of foresight and reminder of how things are going in some cases, it may inadvertently give people a sense of not being valued or heard.
When communicating with others, we should pay more attention to the way we express ourselves and the tone of our voice, and try to avoid using words that may cause the other person to be disgusted.
We should respect the feelings of others and express our opinions in a more gentle and understanding way, so that we can build more harmonious and positive relationships.
Therefore, we need to be cautious about saying “I told you a long time ago” to promote good communication and understanding.
How could I not know about your private affairs
Privacy is everyone’s psychological defense, and even the most intimate relationship needs to maintain a certain sense of boundaries.
When you inadvertently reveal an overly focused interest in someone else’s private life, it can make the other person feel violated and uncomfortable.
Respecting the privacy of others is not only a guarantee of individual rights, but also a sign of mature social interaction.
Keeping quiet at the right time and giving the other person enough space in communication is the secret to maintaining a long-term and healthy relationship.
Don’t “how can you do this”
Time is the greatest engraver, it leaves a mark on everyone, changing our character, our perceptions and even our way of life.
When getting along with acquaintances, we need to pay more attention to the skills and ways of speaking.
The “how can you do this” type of questioning should be avoided.
This statement can make the other person feel blamed, triggering defensiveness, leading to communication barriers, and may even hurt each other’s feelings.
The right thing to do is to express our views and needs in a more peaceful tone, such as: “I’m feeling a little bothered and wish we could discuss this together.” ”
Such expressions are more likely to promote understanding and trust between the two parties and contribute to problem solving.
The power of language is full of vitality, like seeds sown in people’s hearts.
Good words bear good fruits, but evil words hurt people’s hearts.
In front of acquaintances, we should pay more attention to proportionality and respect.
Avoiding the above four sentences is not only to avoid possible conflicts and misunderstandings, but also to maintain that precious emotional bond, so that the relationship between each other will become stronger and warmer under the baptism of time.
