Entering ChinaThere is such a junior high school girl who writes about the love of her grandparents with the most touching writing, which reflects her very mature concept of love, and also reflects her parents’ good family education for her.
This popular “concept of love” essay comes from a junior high school Chinese class, and the teacher assigned an essay to all the students, titled “It turns out that we don’t know love”.
This 14-year-old girl named Teng Fei wrote the story of her grandparents, recorded many small acts of grandparents taking care of each other, and finally sighed:
Love is responsible, long-lasting, and loyal.
The teacher praised this essay when he saw it, and forwarded it to the circle of friends, attracting countless likes.
Teng Fei said:
Compared with those vigorous and lingering love stories, the love of grandparents is the true appearance of love.
To love someone, you must love him or her:
Grandpa can’t eat egg yolks, and grandma wants him to eat two pieces of egg whites every morning;
Grandma’s waist is not good, she buys too many vegetables and carries it very heavy, and grandpa feels distressed when she sees it;
Grandma loves to use air conditioning at night, and grandpa is afraid that she will catch a cold……
To love someone is to be responsible for him:
Grandpa would stuff a few more pieces of money in her wallet before grandma went out, would take out the scarf in advance, and would check if her umbrella was in the bag;
Grandma would urge him to take a bath after his grandfather had cleaned, help him shave his beard and hair, and wash off his clothes. They were responsible to each other for a lifetime.
Grandma’s height is not good, and when she pulls her grandfather’s ears, her grandfather will deliberately bend down and cry out in pain.
Yes, love is a kind of active giving and commitment, when you truly love the other person, you will naturally want to be “responsible”.
Tengfei’s composition ↑
Some people say that schools should not let junior high school students talk about love, and some people say that it is a bit too early to talk about love at a young age.
For her, love is a responsibility and an eternity, it can be said that although this girl is only a child in the third year of junior high school, she also has a very clear understanding of love.
Even some parents praised it again and again, and many commented: “I haven’t lived for decades and she hasn’t seen love so thoroughly!”
Teng Fei’s father said that he was very happy to read this article and felt that his daughter had grown up: “Seeing that she has such an understanding, when she grows up to find a partner in the future, we can let it go.” ”
The father said that he watched his daughter grow up day by day, and his joy was accompanied by worry:
“Her mother and I often wondered what if our daughter grew up and met a boy we didn’t think was good about her, and we wanted to marry him.
We were worried that we wouldn’t be able to persuade her when the time came, so we have always had the opportunity to talk to her about love and marriage, so that there will be a warm-up, and there will be a foreshadowing when we really encounter problems. ”
Under the guidance of such an idea, the father will talk to Teng Fei about the love and marriage of the people around him since his daughter was in the fifth or sixth grade of primary school.
There are successful ones, there are unsuccessful ones, and then, analyze what kind of relationship with the child can be white-headed together.
“I didn’t expect it, it really worked!”
I have to admire Teng Fei’s parents, who have been instilling a concept of love in their children since the fifth grade of primary school.
Adolescent children fall in loveHow can parents treat it correctly?
Adolescent children pursue their own world of truth, goodness and beauty.
Adolescent children’s interest in love is part of their quest for beauty, essentially their yearning for a better life.
Therefore, it is normal for adolescent children to fall in love, and normal does not mean correct.
In the face of children’s “emotional” problems, we can neither interfere rudely, nor turn a blind eye, the best way is to guide the child in the right direction.
Especially nowadays, children are affected by film and television dramas, games, advertisements, classmates preaching to each other, etc., and the love information they receive is far beyond our imagination.
Therefore, as a parent, you should give your child correct guidance in a timely manner and actively carry out love education.
1. Maintain a tolerant and understanding attitude
Since puppy love is a normal phenomenon of adolescent children and a part of their pursuit of beauty, adults should understand and tolerate it; For their superficiality and naivety, it would be good to smile heartily.
2. Prepare children for adolescence
Before children enter puberty, adults should clearly tell children about the life stage of puberty, tell them the essential causes and various manifestations of puberty, such as early love, and psychologically give children puberty vaccinations.
It is important for adolescent children to understand which behaviors should not be done, otherwise the consequences of early love will be unbearable pain for their young shoulders.
3. Reflect on the way family education is conducted, and parents should be role models
Adolescent children’s rebellion, early love, obsession with video games, and many other headaches for adults are rooted in the fact that parents do not educate them properly.
For example, some parents do not play a good role model, some parents do not give their children enough love, and some parents have simple and crude education methods.
Children who grow up in a good family education environment have a much lower probability and degree of occurrence of rebellion, early love, obsession with video games, and other such things than children who grow up in a chaotic, loveless and other bad family education environment.
If there are parents of children in the family during this period, it is often a headache, and many parents have more serious consequences because of beating and scolding and humiliating their children, running away from home, autism or self-harm, which is very undesirable.
With the advent of adolescence, parents will find that their children have some strange behaviors, such as selfishness, pessimism, misanthropy, early love, silence, and difficulty in communication, which need the correct guidance of parents.
Help children establish self-esteem, self-love, self-reliance, and self-improvement in life, so that children can enter the right track of youth.
4. Maintain close contact with the school
Frequent communication between parents and teachers can help to understand the child’s learning and psychological dynamics.
When a child has an early love, on the premise of actively communicating, cooperating with teachers, understanding and respecting the child’s emotional changes, gently help the child to coordinate and deal with the difficulties and troubles of adolescence.
When to fall in love, it is not something that parents can control, but they can evaluate or adjust the mentality and ability of children’s “early love”.
Love is the beauty of life, but it is by no means all beautiful, if it is regarded as all, it is not only difficult to become a big thing, but also to suffer serious emotional injury.
