When one reaches middle age, one finally realizes that the kind of relationship that can last for a long time is one that is based on mutual respect and understanding.

When people reach middle age, they finally realize that the relationship that can be maintained for a long time does not rely on strong love or a lot of giving, but on very few attacks, few confrontations, very few demands, and very few strong people

In the past two years, especially from last year to this year, there is really a feeling of real aging.

Or, I really feel that I am no longer young, no longer naïve, and slowly enter middle age. But the middle-aged in my memory is still the same as my parents.

When did it start?

I thought about it, and I guess it started when I started to pay attention to the changes in my body.

Suddenly, one day, I was called aunt by a junior high school student, and I felt very awkward, shouldn’t I call my sister?

Suddenly, one day I found that I couldn’t lose weight no matter what.

Suddenly, one day, I found that I had worked hard to lose weight, and my face collapsed, and my nasolabial folds were obvious.

Suddenly, one day, I found myself always dizzy and always unenergetic.

Suddenly, one day, I found that my hair slit was getting wider and wider, and the gap between my teeth was getting wider and wider……

I finally realized that I was no longer the little girl who stayed up late, no matter how she didn’t pay attention to diet and skin care, no matter how she dressed up.

Finally, I have to admit that I am a middle-aged woman.

I confessed that it was false to say that I didn’t panic when I saw the changes in my body, but I slowly accepted it, accepted my age, accepted my body, and accepted my flaws and limitations.

I began to slowly reconcile with myself: it’s good to be slightly fat, and what is hidden in the wrinkles is my story and wisdom.

I’m starting to realize that middle age is better than middle age.

It seems that I don’t really mind if my husband comes home on time from work, whether he answers the phone in seconds, and whether he chats when he plays with his mobile phone.

I don’t really mind if he coaxed me after the quarrel or whether he sincerely apologized to me.

I don’t mind if I receive his surprise on holidays, if he provides me with emotional value when I’m upset, if he pours brown sugar water when I come to my aunt……

It seems that what I used to mind now doesn’t mind anymore.

It seems that the people who used to quarrel about it are now relieved.

It seems that I am no longer afraid of being alone, but enjoy the comfort of being alone.

It’s like I can coax myself, play with myself, and please myself.

I feel like I’m getting more and more like a piece of brocade.

As for whether others can give me the icing on the cake, that’s not something I can control, and I don’t care too much.

Last year, I went to the hospital several times, and there was nothing wrong with it, but I was more concerned about my body.

When people reach middle age, they finally understand that the only things that deserve their attention and care in the second half of their life are: my money, my health, and my inner peace.

Therefore, I spend my time and energy on those, and as for the trivial things in life, the shortcomings of the family, the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the war between husband and wife, it is not worth my time to invest, nor is it worth consuming my mood and energy.

But what about you?

is already middle-aged, why are you still entangled in love?

The backstage always receives a lot of troubles from sisters every day, nothing more than unhappy marriages, improvisation for children, men who have no common language with themselves, and angry quarrels with their husbands every day.

But, my dear, why are you always angry with your husband?

Are you angry with him? Or are you angry because his ideas conflict with yours?

You may ask me, is there a difference?

Don’t worry, listen to Xixi give you a good analysis.

Like what:

On the weekend, he wants you to go back to your mother-in-law’s house with him for dinner, and it just so happens that you have an appointment with your girlfriend in advance.

You feel like he doesn’t respect your friendship. He thinks you don’t value his family. In fact, it is just that the two of you have different concepts.

It’s just a trifle.

There are too many such trivial things in life, no one will let anyone, no one will obey anyone, no one will understand anyone, and everyone will feel wronged.

So what to do?

Hee-hee’s advice to you is to get out of the way and deal with it. If you put yourself in the middle of things to theorize, you will never be able to understand the theory.

When people reach middle age, their energy is limited, their time is limited, they have to talk about things, don’t rise to respect at every turn, rise to love or not, and going online can only intensify the contradictions.

Ask your heart:

Is it the deep-rooted ideas in your heart that matter, or the relationship between you and him that matters?

When I think of a sentence, I never doubt my sincerity, but my sincerity changes rapidly.

I never doubt my marriage, my love, but if the other party needs to get off the bus early one day, I won’t feel that the sky has fallen, and I won’t doubt what it used to ❤️ be, it’s just human nature, human nature is: people are fickle. In other words, there are no immutable people, things, or things in this world.

Can you promise that you will never change?

I, I can’t guarantee it.

Therefore, what we can do is not to worry about the sky, not to be frightened, not to be suspicious, not to check each other’s mobile phones and rummage through each other’s pockets, but to cultivate ourselves in the Shura field of marriage, grow ourselves, and let ourselves grow invulnerable and can start over again at any time!