I’d rather rot in my stomach than say two words to my children, parents should collect them-Entering China



Parents play a very important role in a child's life, escorting them with selfless care and care.

As the saying goes: “A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is hurtful and cold in June”.

In getting along with children, the most direct emotional transmission of parents is language, which often affects the child’s life.

Parents don’t say these two sentences

1. You look at other people’s children

“Youth Blue Book” did such a survey, more than half of the 100,000 children hate the most is “look at people”, this sentence.

A lucky childhood can heal oneself for a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood will take a lifetime to heal.

Counting down one’s own children and seeing the advantages of other people’s children is an excessive expectation of children.

One parent shared his experience of disciplining his child, and when he tutored his homework, he said, look at your aunt’s child, writing homework never makes people worry about it.

Not only did the child not buy it, but chose to reply directly: “You like people, it’s better to be her mother”

In reality, there are really a lot of parents who try to make their children good in this way.

However, children who grow up in comparison and counting are often more inferior and have a weaker ability to bear it.

The worst-case scenario is that the child starts to give up on himself.

Perhaps it was this inadvertent sentence that trapped the child’s life.

2. What a big deal!

Children always worship their parents, and when they encounter difficulties, the first thing they think of is their parents.

When your child tells you about his grievances and pain, his parents can’t empathize and say, “What a big deal! ”

It is undoubtedly rubbing salt into the child’s wounds.

The things that children pay attention to are very small, and some small things are really big things for children.

Regardless of the matter itself, the child just wants to be comforted by us.

As parents, sometimes we can’t understand why our children don’t get close to us.

It turned out that we pushed them away with our own hands.

The dangers of hurting people with words

Parents often compare their children with other people’s children to have some negative effects, Xiaozhi summarized it, and I hope parents can pay attention to it.

First, it can cause stress and anxiety for children, as they may feel that they are not living up to their parents’ expectations of other children.

It can also lower children’s self-esteem and self-confidence, leading them to have a negative perception of their abilities and worth.

In addition, it can create unhealthy rivalries between siblings and undermine family harmony.

Speak well, and family relationships will be more harmonious

The nourishment of the family not only comes from the relationship between husband and wife, but also the relationship between parents and children.

Any kind of relationship can’t resist rhetorical questioning, belittling, sarcasm, and bitter sarcasm, so we can start with the simplest things.

Turn accusations and rhetorical questions into concern, focus on solving problems, rather than venting your emotions and put forward your own needs for your family, children, and partners.

Different expressions will achieve different effects, and caring for children requires paying attention to children’s hearts.