People who are really powerful have a zero-return mentality

There are always some people who can live a boring day relaxed and comfortable enough.

This is because they know how to “leave blank” in their lives, clearing and owning at the same time.

So how can you have a “zero mentality” and travel light in the second half of your life?

Empty your emotional trash regularly

Everyone has an “emotional trash can” in their hearts, but the space for this trash can is limited. Too much pain squeezes out happiness; If you have too many troubles, you can’t hold it leisurely.

If you want to start your life again, you need to clean up your emotional garbage from time to time and make room for happiness.

Find the right “trash can”. The most direct way for a person to deal with bad emotions is to have a vehicle that can carry all your bad emotions. Once the emotions are vented, the mood will calm down.
You can make a list of the few things that affect your mood the most today and tell yourself, “That’s the end of the bad things today, I accept it as it is today, and it will be brand new tomorrow.” “

Do something pleasant. When you want to get angry, do something that makes you happy, and then enjoy it seriously, and the happy emotions will dispel the anger in your heart.
You can immerse yourself in a comedy movie and dispel the boredom in your heart with laughter; You can also play a game seriously and wash away the anger in your heart with sweaty pleasure; You can also cook a meal with your heart and swallow up the resentment in your heart with the breath of fireworks.

Change the underlying mentality. There is no absolute good or bad in the world, depending on how you look at it. When encountering things, if you always treat them with a negative attitude, it will make you fall into the quagmire of negative emotions such as pessimism and depression.
Mindset is the source, emotion is the performance. When you know that you can look at everything with an optimistic attitude, you will feel the nourishment of positive emotions such as cheerfulness and happiness.

Relief from the regrets that have already occurred

There are always regrets in life, and you have to learn to let go. Repeatedly chewing on past regrets will only lead to not having the energy to do more.

Try to find positive meaning in every thing that makes you regret. You can make a “goodbye” to past regrets, such as writing all regrets on a piece of paper, then burning them and clearing them from now on.

Doctors in charge of hospice care in Japan have summarized the 25 things that people regret the most before they die, and the number one regret is “not doing what you want to do”.

It can be seen that when you are faced with uncertain things, the degree of regret of “not doing” is deeper than “doing”.

So, in the rest of your life, be brave enough to let go of your past regrets and make more mental space to do what you want to do.

Let go of the obsession with the outcome

Worry will not take away the sadness of tomorrow, but only the strength of today.

Many times, it is not the predicament in front of us that stands in our way, but the shackles we have set for ourselves. When you spend 80% of your energy on anxiety and only 20% on moving forward, you won’t be able to run far.

In many cases, one action is better than 10,000 unfounded worries. When you keep trying in action, entering a positive cycle of feedback, correction, and advancement, you can take back control of your life, and all anxiety will disappear invisibly.

Therefore, there is no need to worry too much about the future, get rid of the mental baggage, so that you can go faster and faster, and walk more and more lightly.

Throw off the shackles of desire

People’s desires are endless, those who have good want better, and those who have better want the best.

But life is limited, and our abilities are also limited, and if we let our desires grow savagely, it will inevitably bring endless suffering, and life will fall into the quagmire of not being able to move forward.

Think about it: Are the things you want to do that you are driven to do by desire? Or is it just because you envy others that you want to get it?

When your talent can’t support your ambitions, you should calm down and learn; When your ability can’t control your goal, you should calm down and experience.

Loosen off the shackles of desire, and you will slowly find that you no longer “lack everything”, but “you already have a lot”.

For the rest of your life, may you cultivate a “zero-return mentality”, regularly take out the garbage in your heart, make room for beauty, and live comfortably and happily.