Entering ChinaAs the saying goes: all are fate! The chance encounter, looking back, is destined for each other’s lives.It is precisely because of the edge of the past generations that there is a stay together in this life. Family, give you warmth, give you dependence, give you peace of mind; Family, it will also disappoint you, give you indifference, and hurt you.The prosperity and decline of a family are inseparable from everyone in the family. There are three reasons why a family is declining. [WeChat public account: Guoxue Life].
If there is discord in the family, there will be disaster
The old man said: Whether you live or not depends on whether you believe in it or not; The high grade is all determined by the depth of the name.
Whether a family is prosperous or not depends on the embodiment of personal conduct.Those who are of noble character have a harmonious family, and everything will naturally go well.Qing Dynasty Suzhou filial piety Cao Jintao, medical skills, no matter what incurable diseases, can be rejuvenated.On this day, when he was about to go out, he found a woman kneeling at the door, and when he saw him, he cried and begged: “Sir, it’s okay!” Our family is poor, we can’t afford to hire another doctor, my aunt is seriously ill, I can’t wait! ”After hearing this, Cao Gong immediately went to the treatment, but when he finished seeing a doctor and left, the patient found that the five taels of silver hidden under the pillow were missing, and suspected that Cao Gong had done it. So the woman came to the door and asked for sin.Seeing this, Cao Gong didn’t bother much, and took out five taels of silver and gave it to her. After the woman returned home, her aunt said that the silver had been found, and the woman was very ashamed, and rushed back to Cao Gong’s residence to return the silver and apologize. But the woman was puzzled: “Since the gentleman was wronged, why do you still say that you stole the silver?” ”Cao Gong said: “I hope that your aunt’s illness will be cured soon, and if she does not admit it, she will definitely become more and more ill, and she will not even be able to be cured.” I just ask your aunt to recover, and I am not afraid that others will say that I stole money. “This piece of loyalty is heartfelt.Of the three sons born to Cao Gong, the eldest son was a royal physician who lived to be more than eighty years old and had a wealthy family; The second son became a Hanlin, and the official has always been a feudal lord; The third son is also a Hanlin, proficient in scripture and history, and writes books; Grandchildren and even great-grandchildren, there are many talents and prominent families.The family carries our countless joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and a family full of complaints and quarrels, whether it wins or loses, it is always the children who lose.In a family, parents are affectionate and brothers are harmonious, and the family can be warm. [WeChat public account: Guoxue Life]A family, not to win or lose, to make a step, to accommodate and tolerate each other, when it is peaceful, the relationship is very strong. Willing to admit defeat because I understand. Family, there is no winning or losing, only tolerance.
If the family style is not right, the disaster is not far away
In the “Forty-two Chapters Sutra”, it is said: The virtuous cannot be destroyed, and the evil will destroy oneself.
It is better to accumulate virtue and do good deeds than to calculate in every way; It is difficult everywhere, it is better to get in touch with people. A family, most importantly, has a good family style. Virtue can carry things, and virtue can inherit the family.Passing on the family with virtue is the foundation of the family. An excellent family is not about how much property is left to the children, but how much wisdom of life can be left behind.The family style is positive, no matter how poor you are, you can make a fortune; If the family style is not right, no matter how rich you are, you will be lost. The best feng shui for a family is not property, not connections, but having a good family style!
Spoil your offspring, and the future will be endless
The words and deeds of parents affect the children’s hearts.Pampering can be had, but you must be clear and peaceful, and everything can really help children grow.In ancient times, there was an old couple who did not give birth to a precious son until their old age, which was extremely precious.One day, when the child went to play at a neighbor’s house, he took a needle and went home to his mother. The mother didn’t ask the reason, and didn’t care about the reason, but only boasted: “My son is so smart! I also know how to give things to my parents. ”Since then, the child has often brought back small things and only said that they had picked them up. The mother felt that the child was filial, and every time she praised her, the child was also very happy.When he became an adult, once, the child brought home a cow, and the parents bought it by themselves when one of their sons became talented. Who knew that a few days later, the leader of the lost cattle finally found out and threatened to sue the official. When the child heard this, he was so anxious that he started to beat someone, and he accidentally beat someone to death.Things got out of hand, the child was arrested, and he was sentenced to behead in court. Before the execution, the child only asked to see his mother, who brought food to see her son off.The child knelt before his mother and cried, “The child is blessed by the mother’s nurturing grace, and may the son suck the mother’s milk before he dies to comfort the child’s spirit in heaven.” The mother relieved her arms, and her son actually bit down on his nipple and hated it: “My trip today is all because my mother was too doting and didn’t teach me when she was a child!” ””If the son does not teach, the father is at fault”, the doting of parents cannot give children a worry-free future.In life, you can’t escape the hardships you should endure; The way to go, we have to go. Now I am reluctant to let my children suffer, and when I grow up, this world will make my children very miserable.Shelter from the wind and rain, you can’t block it for a lifetime; Take precautions and can’t stop the wind and rain. No one’s life can be smooth; No parent can be blessed forever. Only when children endure a little hardship can they have the understanding to resist life.
There is a way to thrive in a family.
“Taishang Induction Chapter” says: Do good deeds every day, although the blessing has not come, the disaster will come from afar; Evil is done every day, although the disaster has not come, the blessing is far away. Those who do good deeds are blessed with themselves. If a family wants to prosper, it must start small.1. Understand each otherBetween family members, understanding is fundamental, and tolerance is needed. No one is perfect, and contradictions are inevitable. When there is a problem, understand each other, understand each other’s difficulties, and be willing to think about each other, the contradiction will naturally be eliminated.2. Communicate in a timely mannerAs a family, communication is the most important thing.When conflicts arise, timely communication is the most important. Many problems, because of different angles, lead to different perceptions. Guess and guess, can’t guess the hearts of the people. Communicate in a timely manner and say what you think in order to avoid the accumulation of contradictions.3. Be diligent and thriftyA porridge and a meal are not easy to come by, and it is difficult to keep up with the material resources.You don’t need too much money, just enough money; The food doesn’t need to be good, just enough to eat; Only by being content can we be happy, and by being diligent and thrifty, we can keep a family.There is no need to compare your own life.Diligence and thrift are not stingy, the key is not to waste, do not save the money that should be spent, and save the money that should not be spent as much as possible.4. Accumulate virtue and do good“I Ching” has clouds: the house of goodness must have afterglow; There will be aftermath in the house of the poor.The most important thing is character.
