Entering ChinaThe mall was crowded.
A little girl who looked to be 5 or 6 years old was playing in the bathroom of a shopping mall, and the sleeves of her clothes were wet.
Her mother grabbed her, and because of the force, the little girl staggered a little, and said:
“You’re going to die? Clothes don’t cost money, do they? How did I give birth to such a thing as you……”
The little girl seemed to be frightened, her eyes were dark, like a marionette, and she let her mother pull around.
How much enmity does it have with the child to curse the child to death?
Words are often the sharpest weapons, and these words are like bayonets, inadvertently, deeply hurting the child’s heart.
Mother’s mouth
hides the temperature of the child’s life
Ah Xuan was always compared when she was a child, and she was never praised by her mother.
Every time in front of relatives, my mother directly said that she was not good.
She listened to the grievances in her heart, tears fell endlessly, she tried hard to perform but was never recognized, and she said it when she caught making mistakes.
Ah Xuan took the initiative to help with the housework, but her mother thought she was slow and unclean; doesn’t do housework, and says that she is lazy, doesn’t know how to pay for the family, and sympathizes with her parents.
Ah Xuan’s mother never gave up any opportunity to bring up the old things again, just like a broken record player, repeatedly and babbling about the child’s bad deeds and how the child made her lose face.
Mother’s harsh and paranoid words planted the seeds of inferiority complex in 12-year-old Ah Xuan’s heart, and carefully calculated how many things came from these trivial things.
Children are like a jar into which adults throw their grievances and bitter words into which one day the jar will explode.
Mother’s mouth
Determine the height of your child’s life
Hu Shi once wrote in the article “My Mother”:
“My mother is a big man, a good character, the most kind and gentle to others, and never a word of hurtful feelings.”
But in reality, how many mothers are afraid that their children will go to heaven if they praise a few more words, and they are afraid that they will lose their families if they fight one less time.
“They have never been a qualified parent, but they ask us to be a qualified child everywhere.” The 25-year-old Tian Tian vented her dissatisfaction in the circle of friends.
“It’s better to raise a dog than to raise you, and the dog knows how to wag its tail.” This is a sentence that Sweet Mother often says to her.
Tian Tian has never been able to change the way her mother speaks, which is the problem she is most confused about.
Tian Tian has tried to be gentle, tried to please, tried to be coquettish, tried to be fierce, tried to buy something for her mother, but if she wants her mother to speak to her well, it seems that only when her mother wants to do this.
Tian Tian didn’t like her mother’s way of talking, but Tian Tian felt that she was becoming more and more like her mother.
Mom’s occasional swearing, occasional roaring, and sweetness are all absorbed and internalized unconsciously.
These things are presented in Tiantian’s speech and behavior, so when Tiantian communicates with her mother, they often can’t communicate calmly.
They often quarrel over trivial matters.
Tian Tian actually doesn’t like herself, and the saddest thing is that the child will never be able to convince his parents.
Praising a child is a sign that they are too much pampered for their child; Justifiably accusing, criticizing, or even scolding is the right way to raise children.
When children grow up, they can distinguish right from wrong and live independently without their parents, but those habits of inferiority, timidity and self-denial that go deep into the bone marrow will accompany children for a lifetime.
Mother’s mouth
is a family of Feng Shui
Every child’s heart is soft and immature, and the mother’s fluttering words are sometimes more painful than a slap in the face.
Huanhuan is 32 years old, and in my impression, she has not gone shopping sweetly with her mother, even though she tried hard to change her stiff relationship with her mother after marriage, and later found that easing the relationship could not change her mother’s temper.
Before getting married, her mother scolded Huanhuan almost every day, and her mother wanted her to be angry, and she thought she knew Huanhuan.
Mom has always held her identity as a parent, thinking that it is normal to beat and scold children, and Huanhuan has to endure it as a child.
Speaking is the least cost-free, and speaking well tests the wisdom and pattern of being a mother.
A smart mother, in life, never embarrasses people without concealing her mouth, but treats people kindly, like a spring breeze.
A family’s attitude towards life and spiritual outlook will be passed down from generation to generation.
Mother’s mouth is the best feng shui for a family.
Maybe mothers forget after scolding, they don’t know that they have said these words, and simply treat their children as emotional “trash cans”.
When the child is angry, the mother will feel that she is making trouble.
In the face of verbal violence from their mothers, some children see the painful emotions they have as part of their lives and even rationalize them:
“She can’t be blamed for this, after all, I did the wrong thing first.”
Sometimes, mothers can educate their children well by changing the way they speak?
If there is something wrong with the child, it can be pointed out, and it is really not advisable to insult the child on the platform.
Considering the child’s feelings and speaking well is a kind of kindness to being a mother, and it is also a lifelong practice.
Parents also come from their children and give hugs and warmth to each child who has suffered verbal violence.
A happy family, without sharp accusations and angry scolding.
